What to do when you don’t like your engagement ring
Each individual has different likes and dislikes in life. Imagine how boring life would be if we all had the same taste in fashion, hobbies and life in general! These differences in taste can often cause ructions but if handled with precision, can be ironed out without having to cause chaos.
When it comes to choosing an engagement ring, your better half may choose something for the special occasion that won’t carry your instant approval. This may make you feel like a horrible person for judging your now-fiancé, but then again, we’re all human. So, how can one solve this engagement ring fiasco?
Please don’t panic!
After the exhilaration of your fiancé asking your hand in marriage wears off and you get a moment to examine the ring, your heart sinks to your shoes. I don’t like this ring… Why did he pick this one? He doesn’t know that much about me if he thought I would love this ring… What if we’re not meant to be… Your mind will be racing with all sorts of bogus thoughts about the ring you will be wearing for the rest of your life; the one you don’t like. Take a moment, dear bride. Take a deep breath and relax. The problem can be solved in much easier ways than pinning your fiancé in a corner while breaking both your hearts.
Don’t decide on the spot
Upon first glance at your new ring, you may feel that it’s not the right one for you. However, it’s a good idea to give the ring a few days to settle on your ring finger. You don’t have to decide within the first day that your relationship is on the brink of destruction because you don’t have that dazzling diamond on the finger; the one you have always dreamed about… It’s a wide known fact that the longer you look at a particular piece of jewellery, the better the chances are that it might grow on you!
What exactly don’t you like about the ring?
If after a few days, you can’t wrap your head around why your fiancé would ask your hand in marriage with this particular ring, decide what you don’t like about it. One can’t simply say “I don’t like it.” It could be that you don’t like the slant of the diamond or your signature style in jewellery is silver instead of gold. Instead of the ring being a little too rough on your petite finger, you had something more feminine in mind.
Be open and honest with the one you love
If you want your relationship to work out, you need to be honest about your feelings. Confronting your fiancé with the truth won’t be easy, but if you break it gently and tactfully, a solution can be found! Be subtle as it’s possible your fiancé will be a little disappointed as you were not blown away by the ring selection. Remember that this will only be one of many mountains you will need to climb together so dealing with it in the correct way will determine whether you’d be able to work together on tough decisions or not.
Find the best possible solution
After breaking the news to your fiancé, you, as a team, need to come up with the best possible solution.One very constructive solution would be to work together on how to re-design the ring to give it that unique edge that will make you fall in love with it.Another way of making your love knows what your style is, is to go ring browsing!Remember, this will only work when you know your relationship is heading in that direction!By doing that, you won’t have to worry about your engagement ring being something of your worst nightmares…