You don't have to stick to the old-fashioned etiquette, but knowing who traditionally would pay for what may give you some idea of how to divvy up your budget.
The Bride's family paid for:
* All the stationary, from the save-the-dates to the guest book and, eventually, the thank you notes.
* The bride's dress, veil and lingerie, plus her honeymoon wardrobe.
* Flower arrangements for the ceremony and reception, and bouquets for the bridesmaids and flower girls.
* Gifts for the bridesmaids and flower girls.
* The groom's band.
* Transportation for the wedding party on the day.
* The photographer and videographer.
* The reception, including the venue hire, decor, most drinks, food, music and tips for servers.
The Groom's family paid for:
* The engagement ring and bride's wedding band.
* The marriage license.
* The officiant's fee.
* The groom's suit.
* The bride's bouquet, boutonnières for the groom and his groomsmen, and corsages for the mothers and grandmothers.
* Gifts for the groomsmen and ring bearer.
* The rehearsal dinner.
* Liquor for the reception.
* The honeymoon.
The bridesmaids paid for:
* The bridal shower and the bachelorette party
* Dresses and shoes
* Travel expenses and hotel.
The groomsmen paid for:
* The bachelor party
* Suits and shoes.
* Travel expenses and hotel.